Too much of a good thing can be wonderful.
– Mae West
We’ve had big parties, and we’ve had small. We’ve had tea parties, tumbling, laser tag, jungle gyms, hikes, fairies, butterflies, sleepovers and even a party bus that pulled up out front. One thing I’ve learned from having parties for my kids: they all make me smile, and are moments to remember.
Candles on cupcakes,
Lungs filled with air,
Wishes outnumber
Cares, on kids’ birthdays.
As the number of kids we have increases, and the number of kids’ birthdays celebrated has passed twenty, I look back with most appreciation on the smaller parties. The greater intimacy allows for capturing more of that reflected joy, bottled forever in my memory. (And fewer numbers of presents to find places for.)
For me, March is the month of spring and birthdays (two of my kids and my dad).
packages wrapped
explosions of colorful paper
expressions of love
Copyright 2014 Brenda Davis Harsham
Inspired by the Ligo Haibun Challenge (Quote week) and Paint the World with Words (Naani poetry prompt). Thanks to the talented people volunteering their time to help motivate complete strangers to write.

A very nice, warm and touching haibun, positive and fun, and with the smooth readibng one gets here always, like a great coffee at a coffee bar!
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Thanks, I love to write in coffee shops. Home can be very distracting. 🙂
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Brilliant! Brenda, you give out your soul for writing! You shared so much of imagery with this. I indeed loved your party thought and it gave out so much of happiness with your words and I felt so nice after reading this. I must say, this was an overall excellent write and a great naani poem in between! Thank you for your participation!
Regards 🙂
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Amreen, Thanks for running a prompt! It was fun to write a Naani, although it was one of the harder I’ve tried lately, I don’t know why…. Warmly, Brenda
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Really? But, I am glad you tried and it turned out so well and intelligent! I like how you turn things out! Good job dear:)
Regards,
Amreen
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It was hard to write about people. I realize I am in the habit of writing about people very little. I’m glad I took the time to warm up to it. 🙂
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Yes and you did a good job with this! 🙂
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So nicely done 🙂
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Thanks!
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P.S. I love the cupcakes with candles! Great idea, looks so cosy too – might try that for my birthday! 😀
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Thanks! Those were death by chocolate cupcakes, triple chocolate batter, extra dark chocolate chips, and chocolate frosting. I feel myself gaining weight just thinking about them. LOL
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I agree, smaller parties are the more memorable ones for me too! I remember the bigger the party, it seemed the bigger the upset between some kids at the party was. Children tend to compete with each other a lot more in larger groups, and it can all end in a lot of tears. A friend of mine had that problem too when her daughter was little. The trouble is, when everyone else is having big parties some kids feel embarrassed and left out if they don’t have one too. Can be a real problem for some people today, and very expensive too, if your children get invited to nearly every party happening. I really don’t know what I would do if I was a mother having to make those decisions – tear my hair out, probably!! 😀
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You’d spend and spend some more, most likely. Or be the party grinch. Not a desirable thing, in my book. I like reasons to celebrate. Emotions can be high, tears can happen, but they don’t ruin it for me. I just focus on the good memories as much as I can. 🙂
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Very nice… For me it’s February… All month filled with celebrations big and small… Lor
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Lor, isn’t it funny how they bunch up? You get tired of all that cake and run out of candles!! LOL
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what a fun post Brenda. party on!!! and happy march birthdays to your dad and kids too!
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Thanks!! I’ll tell them. 🙂
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I love organizing kids’ parties! My kids were (4 years and) 6 days apart, however, so after my youngest was born, when I tried doing separate parties, the people that came to the party the weekend before didn’t want to come back the following weekend. 😦 So, from them on, I had to combine their birthdays, which was something I never wanted to do. 😦
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My kids have very different pools of friends, and I let family members off the hook, generally. The parties are usually their friends only. Only the first birthday party and maybe age 2 were family parties. Once they were in preschool, friends all the way.
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Oh, I dont know if the birthdays passed or they are coming, but happy happy HAPPY all to you and your family and friends! 😀
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They are all passed, thanks be. And thanks for your good wishes. I have two kids in the double digits now. One is half-way there. 🙂
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Sweet:)
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Thanks. 🙂 LOL It gives me a giggle to think of all the CAKE!!
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I hope that all of the three have excellent celebrations and happy days ahead. You know I like smaller parties but sometimes it is fun to see the crazy interactions of larger groups, especially children! Smiles, Robin
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It is a good way to meet the other parents during the preschool years, because they tend to hang around. But I usually start smaller parties in the elementary years. 🙂 My kids love them no matter what kind of party it is. I guess their preferred party is out of reach — I don’t do arcades and soda. So that’s the gold ring for them of course.
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happy birthday to all of your march birthday clan )
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Thanks! 🙂 LOL I enjoy it, but I’m always happy when March ends!
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wonder if it was the pepsi party bus,that comes when you are 6.
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Nope, it was a local birthday party place that had a bus decked out in a zip line and all sorts of play stuff. It was pretty cool.
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that sounds even better
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I didn’t know pepsi had a bus. We aren’t into soda. That makes us bizarre, but there it is.
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lol.. i don’t even know if they still do.. i was 6 & they give you a pink cake, ice cream,pepsi, balloons even if you drink coke & have stock in coke.lol
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Wow! That is cool! I take it all back. Your parents must be wicked awesome!
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yes …i really didn’t drink coke or pepsi like you. i drank diet sprite .lol but coke made sprite.
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I was a crush fan. I used to joke that it kept my hair red. Maybe that’s why I’ve started to go gray — I stopped drinking crush.
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LOL i haven’t had that in 50 11 years…my hair is red too..clairol 20 R natural instincts.lol
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Brenda, It is nice to see that the celebration goes on and on. I hope all of the March parties are wonderful and full of great joy. Take care, Bill
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Bill, So far, so good! Lots of smiles and good memories this year. 🙂 Hugs, Brenda
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